If you do not know how to deal with depression, I am here with some solutions. Getting away from depression is not as easy as it sounds. One might not fully understand the term “Depression” if you don’t have full dictionary knowledge of the term.
Truth be told, there is no way one will feel hopeless and unimportant and still feel very happy or relevant to his or her family and society at large; hence suicide becomes inevitable or imminent.
But is suicide the only way out? It’s a No-No for me. How do I know? They said experience is the best teacher, and that is the case here. Sometimes in the year 2016, I was really depressed.
Things were not going according to plan, I felt so unhappy, irrelevant and unimportant. How did I get away from it? I explored by traveling to places I have never been to before and I also stayed away from social media.
Was that the solution? In all honesty, yes. This may work for most people and may not work for some.
Mind you, depression isn’t a sign of weakness or a sign of not being a born again Christian and you can’t easily “get away” from it. Depression may set in gradually or could come in unannounced; the former is usually the case.
Just as it may take time to be depressed, that’s how it may require
A team of neurosurgeons at Heidelberg University Hospital and psychiatrists at the Central Institute of Mental Health, Mannheim, Germany, have for the first time, successfully treated a patient suffering from severe depression by stimulating the Habenula, a tiny nerve structure in the brain.
A 64-year-old female patient, who had suffered from depression since age 18, was not helped by medication or electroconvulsive therapy. However, since undergoing this new procedure she is, for the first time in years, free of depressive symptoms.
Let’s take a quick look at the causes, symptoms, prevention of depression and reasons you shouldn’t attempt suicide. This will be very brief, I promise.
Causes of depression
Causes of depression have not been totally figured out. As with many mental disorder orders, a wide range of factors may be involved, viz:
- Genetics: People with depression appear to have physical changes in their brains. Researchers are not yet certain about all the genetic risk factors for depression, but may eventually help spot–on causes.
- Brain chemistry: Neurotransmitters are chemical substances which help different areas of the brain communicate with each other. It is believed that once the chemistry amongst these chemical substances is faulted, depression can easily set in.
- Other causes are: Inherited traits, drugs, physical health problems, poor nutrition, grief, and loss, low self-esteem etc
Signs of Depressions
You might be lucky to experience depression once in your lifetime, people usually have multiple incidents. during these incidents, symptoms occur most of the day, almost every day and may include:
- Sadness without a particular reason, tearfulness, emptiness or hopelessness, angry outbursts, irritability or frustration, even over small trivia matters, loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities, such as sex, hobbies, sports or games.
- Sleep disturbances, including insomnia or sleeping too much.
- Tiredness and lack of energy, so even small tasks take extra effort
- Reduced appetite and weight loss or increased cravings for food and weight gain.
- Anxiety, agitation or restlessness
- Slowed thinking, speaking or body movements.
- Feelings of worthlessness or guilt, fixating on past failures or self-blame.
- Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering things.
- Frequent or recurrent thoughts of death, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts or suicide.
- Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches. Irritability, feeling negative and worthless, anger, poor performance or poor attendance at school, feeling misunderstood and extremely sensitive, using recreational drugs or alcohol.
Getting Away from Depression (Prevention): How to overcome depression
- Take steps to control stress, to increase your resilience and boost your self-esteem.
- Reach out to family and friends, especially in times of crisis, to help you weather rough spells.
- Get treatment at the earliest sign of a problem to help prevent depression from worsening.
- Travel, visit places you’ve never been to before.
- If you easily get motivated by reading motivational books and/or inspirational songs, do well to read a book or listen to a particular song that strikes your motivation.
- Stay away from what is worsening your depression state; this could be the social media, football matches or even instant messaging apps.
- Consider getting long-term maintenance treatment to help prevent a relapse of symptoms.
Why suicide is not how to deal with depression
Suicide has and will never be the way to deal with depression. These are the reasons why one shouldn’t consider suicide at all, a few of them are:
- Your family and friends will never forgive themselves.
- Please let someone know how you are feeling, no matter how lonely you feel. You are not alone. We are here and you matter.
- You will be leaving your best friend behind. A friend who will always post your picture with the caption “friends for life”. Killing yourself after all the wonderful things your best friend has done for you is not the best way to repay your debt.
- You could save somebody else’s life with what you are going through now, somebody who in years to come, feels everything you are feeling now and only the words ‘me too’ could ever reach them. Be there to say those words.
- Your parents and siblings will be heartbroken. Think about how much money and time your parents and siblings have invested in your life. Taking your own life is now how you want to pay them back? No, don’t do that.
- Help is available and millions of people all over the world have felt how you are feeling and still recovered.
- Think about your future. Remember you said you wanted to become a medical doctor? A nurse? A scientist? A farmer? A lawyer? An engineer? You can’t even be a “wheelbarrow pusher” if you end your life. Focus on achieving all you’ve set your heart to achieve.
- You are not an accident the world needs you
- Think about your children!. Who will take care of them? Another woman?? Another man??? You don’t want them to feel that parental care and love? You want them to end up like you? Please stop and terminate that thought of committing suicide.
- When you hit rock bottom, the only way is up.
- Oh, hope you’ve not forgotten that God is totally against it? Think of this; you’ve suffered here on earth, then you now decided to take your sufferings to a greater height by committing suicide.
- This fire is hotter and fiercer than the mood you are in right now. So, please don’t consider suicide at all except you consider depression as “enjoyment” because suicide is generally accepted as “greater enjoyment”
- It’s ok to feel like you want to give up and throw in the towel in. It’s ok to want out, It’s ok to reach a breaking point. It’s okay to not be okay because you are more than your sadness and these feelings just please don’t give up.
I hope I have been able to help someone out there, you can deal with depression completely.
If you are going through something like this, do comment and we will talk about it, if not and you have a way of helping people that are depressed or an experience, pls share.
by: David Obiakor