We never do what we should mainly because of fear, perfectionism, over-planning, lack of planning, people’s opinion, competition etc. Think about your dreams; your ambitions. Wonder why they are still dreams? Most people go through life without doing the things they really want to because they do not know how to start. In fact, one of the sayings I have so frequently is: “There are many unachieved dreams in the grave”.
We all know what we want to do; in fact, we may have even drawn up plans. How come, then, is it that we never seem to do the things we ought to. Here is why I think we sit on the edges of our ambitions:
If you have attended business seminars as much as I have, then you have probably heard motivational speakers blame everything on this four lettered word. The reason you are not progressing? Fear. The reason you are not married? Fear. The reason you are not happy? Fear. The reason you don’t know how to dance Shaku-Shaku? Fear.
Okay, maybe I made up the last one but in truth, fear is the reason why we do not live up to our full potential, or at least most likely. Every time we think about the things we love to do, the next thing that creeps into our minds are reasons why we cannot do them. Well Brethren, that’s fear.
Progress demands that although we think about our obstacles, we get excited enough to want to overcome them. So the next time you are discouraged about how to start, how your dreams are too big for your fragile head, also occupy yourself with other means of outwitting your obstacles.
We mostly have a tinge of perfectionism in us. This leaves us wanting to secure the best in whatever we do. While this is a good thing, it has a negative side that can swallow our dreams alive if not mind.
Wanting everything we do to be of the best quality could make us reluctant in starting out new projects. This is because we are afraid of failure or producing low-quality standards. The only way I know to overcome this feeling is to ignore it and start anyway.
What if we fail? We should make a conscious decision to do our best not to, but if we do, then we should also decide to find out how to start again. Truth is you have not failed if you decide you have not failed. What if it is not up to standard? Whose standard? Also, you get to learn in the process. Remember knowledge is power.
Another variant of seeking to be perfect makes us afraid of breaking our routines. This hinders us from doing what we are supposed to do.
For instance, if I dream of being an author. I would realize that I could be an author in a couple of months if I can get myself to write every day. Good plan right? But there is something called over-planning.
Planning is a good thing but often times, our planning does not give room for a break. Even if you are drunk on focus, you can hardly follow up routines back to back without stopping. Only robots do that! Our planning should allow for breathers.
The problem with following up our dreams like robots is that when we eventually get fazed-out, it would be difficult to get back on track.How to start: JUST START. When to start: NOW. What if you fail: START OVER. JUST STALack of Planning.
While over-planning eventually gets us too tired to get back in the race, lack of planning really is not the solution. Without plans, we usually think our goals are unattainable, and they usually are.
Plans help us realize easy, step-by-step actions we can take to attain goals. It’s like this: My goal is to sleep for 80 hours (Please do judge my dream). It might seem difficult in the first instance but I could plan to sleep for four hours every day, for the next 20 days.
Now that’s how planning works.
There is always the question: what would people say? We do not only fear the magnitude of our dreams but deep down, we also are afraid of getting disapproved by others.
Somehow, we mistake disapproval for rejection, or maybe we do not. Whether it is disapproval or rejection, letting it hinder us from starting out on our goals would definitely backfire, like a restless boomerang.
We live in a society where it is partly cultural for people not to mind their business, so do not take it too personally when people do not support your dreams. They are your dreams, not theirs. Assuming they are right that you would fail, or it is a ridiculous goal, remind yourself that you are just happy to be trying to do the same thing that makes you happy.
A lot of people would kill for the opportunity.
It’s true. In life, all we do is compete to survive. But living your dreams is not surviving. Living your dreams is LIVING.
Comparing yourself, or whatever you do with someone else’s only does more harm than good. Maybe you started out by being inspired by their work, but if care is not taken, you might end up feeling that they are actually better than you are.
Always put it behind the heart than nobody is better than you are. They work may be more organized, or even more professional, but never better. You can even take the time to learn from their’s but never be intimidated.
Here’s why: what truly makes work beautiful is the of the ‘worker’ that radiates through the work. You admire their work because you can sense their person through it. That does not make their craft better, it only means you can do the same for yours.
So there you have it. These are the reasons why we all procrastinate the things we really should be doing. You think I’m right yea? I think I am right too. Let us know what you think, use the comment section if you agree or not.
HOW TO START?
THE BEST WAY TO START IS TO START.